Let’s get Candid here!
There are so many things that I want to share. Lets start from here. I have so many people coming up to me and saying “You know what, I don’t have a green thumb!” And all I want to say is “Neither do I!”
I want to get this straight – Gardening, like any other skill is acquired by learning and practice! There is nothing like an inherent ability or talent! If I can, anybody can!
If you’re under the impression that our parents or grandparents were better than us at Gardening, all I want to say is “of course they were. Most of them grew up in villages and even if not, they were surrounded with a lot of plants since childhood. Those Gardening activities that they are good at, was a part of their upbringing, which we lacked to some extent!”
So rule No.1 – Stop comparing yourself with your parents/grandparents!
Everyone makes mistakes. So do I! A lot!! Yes! I just realized that I have not spoken much about my mistakes. Gives an impression as if I am a perfectionist! No I am not! I just never spoke much about them. But I guess I need to. Its okay if you make mistakes. What is not okay is, you not knowing where you went wrong. You cannot afford not to learn from your mistakes.
So if you want to know, have plants died in my Garden because of my mistakes, YESSS!! They did. The only difference, I realized where and what went wrong.
So rule No.2 – Its okay to make mistakes! Don’t be hard on yourself.
We are dealing with living beings. I want you to understand this. The way we humans are little broken.. Some are differently-abled, some women can’t conceive, some suffer from chronic depression and others from kidney failures. Even plants are that way. Not every plant can bear flowers or fruits. Not always do you have to go on adding fertilizers incessantly. Sometimes you just have to let them be the way they are, accept and love them. Can you do that for me?
Lastly, you also need to accept yourself! I tried growing Dahlias at my place. I first bought a dahlia plant from nursery and it lived for a year. Second time I tried growing them from seeds. Both the times I realized there was something that I was not getting right. May be it was the climate or that they really needed chemical fertilizers to survive- I don’t know what. But I stopped growing Dahlias. I had a choice. I could keep frustrating myself over the Dahlias or I could just move to 500 other options that I had. I moved.
You have so many options. Start from something that is zero risk and then move yourself up. I am always there to help you. Take up Gardening.
Trust me when I say this, “If you have a thumb – Its green!”